Under Pressure by Lisa Damour and related titles

UNDER PRESSURE by Lisa Damour is one of those books that we cannot keep on our shelves, despite owning multiple copies.  Damour, who also wrote Untangled about guiding teenage girls to adulthood, discusses “Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls” in her latest title.  She draws from her experiences as a clinical psychologist and writes in a conversational tone about the issues girls face, especially how anxiety “seems to have spun out of control.” While acknowledging that “anxious feelings are becoming more prevalent among all young people,” she cites research that indicates this is happening at a faster pace for girls.  Damour succinctly contrasts stress (“usually refers to the feeling of emotional or mental strain or tension”) and anxiety (“usually refers to the feeling of fear, dread, or panic”).  There is an entire chapter related to girls at school where she highlights the findings that “teenagers with a stress-build-strength mindset were much less upset by difficult life events … than those with a stress-does-harm mindset” and acknowledges that (1) recovery strategies are highly personal although (2) having one is vital because “intellectual growth depends on doing both hard work and replenishing one’s reserves.”

UNDER PRESSURE contains roughly twenty-five pages of note, plus recommended reading related to EACH chapter for parents and girls (the latter seems more geared to middle school or early high school readers, however).  For more examples of Damour’s thoughts, check out this profile from KQED and her recent New York Times articles:  2/12: How to Help Teens Weather Their Emotional Storms or 2/7:  Why Girls Beat Boys at School and Lose to Them at the Office  or 1/16: How to Help Tweens and Teens Manage Social Conflict

BRAVE, NOT PERFECT by Reshma Saujani is subtitled “Fear Less, Fail More, and Live Bolder.” Saujani, the founder and CEO of Girls Who Code stresses that “boys are taught to be brave, while girls are taught to be perfect” and that results in women who are afraid to fail. In this text, she shares events from her own life, like her 2010 unsuccessful run for Congress, to encourage others to take risks. Additional examples tend to be grounded in popular culture, such as one chapter which refers to Helen Mirren, Chelsea Manning and Taylor Swift. Saujani’s advice is meant to be entertaining and memorable, with sections titled “In a World Full of Princesses, Dare to be a Hot Dog” or “Strategy: Start Before You’re Ready.” However, she makes many serious points: “risky acts – like taking an unpopular stand – might be scary, but they often end up being the ones that are most appreciated and celebrated.” You can read an excerpt here.